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For All The “Emily Doe’s” of The World


Just in case you don’t know what this particular case is all about here is the short version.

A woman, “Emily Doe” went to a party at Stanford with her sister. She admits to drinking a bit too much but really big deal.

Around midnight two bike riders came upon a man on top of a woman behind a dumpster. They tackled him and called for paramedics and police. It should be noted here that the woman was unconscious. By the way, it is very rare to have this kind of act witnessed by two other individuals that were not a party to the situation.

The woman, known only at “Emily Doe” wrote a letter to her attacker which as I’m sure you can imagine has gone viral. At one point in the letter she states she does not want her body anymore, and that she wished she could just leave it at the hospital with everything else. She talks about what it was that he took from her that night and yes, even admits to drinking.

During the trial, not surprisingly, she was questioned regarding her drinking, her clothing (which her sister had commented made her look like a librarian!), her sex life, her personal life and just about anything else the defense could think of. None of which truly had a damn thing to do with the case itself! The case has recently gone to court and the jury found the defendant guilty (as well they should!) He could have received up to 14 years jail time. But no, the judge in this case, Judge Aaron Persky, determined that “A prison sentence would have a severe impact on him” and gave him only six months in jail and 3 years’ probation.

Since this has come out in the news there has now been a letter posted that the attacker’s father wrote to the judge. Naturally the father talked about what a great person his son was. He did this and he did that and everyone loved him. I don’t doubt that at all. But it is not until the end of the three page letter that there is any comment at all about the incident in which his son attacked another human being. This letter, from the attackers father states that he feels that a jail sentence would be much too harsh for his son considering it was “…20 minutes of action out of his 20 plus years of life.”

This kind of crap just absolutely has to be stopped.

1. The blaming the female if she was drinking
2. The questioning of the female regarding her personal sex life
3. The thought that “boys will be boys”
4. The thought that jail time might ruin a young man’s life
5. The thought that a man is not responsible for his actions if he drinks
6. The thought that women are responsible for anything that happens to them if they drink
7. The idiotic thought that a man’s life is more important than a woman’s life


As a follow up to this, the judge whose name is the only one I included here (purposely) is now most likely up for recall…as well he should be as he is an absolute disgrace to the bench!

I know there  many, many more cases out there that have not received the amount of press as this one has that are just as egregious as this one. The thing that stands out with this particular case is that both the victim’s letter and the attackers fathers letter have been made public.

Here are links to the letters:
The victim’s letter to the judge and addressed to the attacker

The father’s letter to the judge

This is NOT just a women’s issue. If you are a woman, if you know women, if you like women, if you have a mother, a daughter, a sister, a niece, or a wife this is an issue that you should be involved in!

And I hope this woman doesn’t mind that I am also linking to a post she wrote about 3 years ago. This my friend is how you stop rape!

Yes, sometimes I go a bit overboard…and sometimes I perhaps don’t go far enough. If you don’t agree with me that this kind of bullshit absolutely must be stopped – and stopped now – then feel free to unlike my page and not read anything more of what I write.

I just hope that all the “Emily Doe’s” out there know that there are people out there that care, that support them and that have their back!


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2 Responses to For All The “Emily Doe’s” of The World

  1. Jenni June 9, 2016 at 5:52 pm #

    I hope the judge loses his job. The tendency to blame and punish the victim is reprehensible. This boy’s future is not more important than Emily Doe’s. It just floors me that a judge or any thinking human who has women in his or her life could think that way. Our whole culture of violence needs to be changed. Thanks for writing about this, Kendra. Awareness is the first step to change that can make a difference.
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    • Kendra June 10, 2016 at 7:04 am #

      You are so very correct Jenni! In fact on the news just this morning I heard that the petition to oust the judge will be delivered today as they have more than enough signature!

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