Is there actually a formula for self-care?
Well it might not be a formula at all!
According to several different websites and dictionaries…
Self-care includes any intentional actions you take to care for your physical, mental and emotional health.
For many people self-care is that long luxurious bubble bath with candles, soft music and a glass of wine. Or it could be getting that monthly (or weekly) pedicure and manicure, or even a weekly massage.
For some those ideas are the embodiments of self-care…while for others any one or all of those ideas sound like the worst possible idea ever.
So what the hell is self-care then? And why the hell is it so important?
Taking that second question first (ok, so I could have written that question first but what the heck) self-care is truly an important aspect of everyone’s life. After all if you do not care for yourself – both inside and out – who the heck is going to care for you? It absolutely must come from you! Hence the name – “self” care.
But really, what does self-care actually mean?
Self-care is not about eating, or sleeping or how one does their regular daily routine. Though those things certainly come into play. After all eating right, getting the right exercise and having good sleep patterns are all about taking care of yourself.
It is actually much more than that. It is the little things that we do for ourselves…those things that truly no one else can do for us.
Self-care is not the same for everyone.
You see I have friends that love to get their manicures but honestly, that does absolutely nothing for me. For them though it is a feel good thing they do for themselves.
And the thing is…not all self-care has to cost a fortune! Ok, some things might cost but many don’t and many are just little things but boy can they do a lot for a person’s well-being. A few ideas for inexpensive self-care are:
- Sit in front of a fire on a rainy afternoon
- Take time to read a good book
- Take a road trip alone – or with a friend
- Take a new route to work
- Learn to meditate so you can do daily meditations
- Do one thing every day that truly makes you happy (yes go ahead and be selfish)
- Dance – even if you are home alone
- Go for a walk (don’t forget to acknowledge the people you see along the way)
- Get outside in the fresh air and nature at least 15 minutes daily
- Have a good laugh – even if you are alone learn to laugh out loud. And yes even if you end up laughing at yourself!
- Use your commute to work or your daily walk to find five new things that are beautiful
- Go ahead and have that long bath being sure to put on some cool music, have a glass of wine (or drink of your choice) and read those magazines that have piled up
- Do good deeds daily such as carrying a bag for someone, running an errand for someone, or letting someone go in front of you in line
- Fix yourself a really wonderful meal and actually sit at a nicely set table to enjoy it (without the TV or or other electronics on)
- Turn off your electronics for an hour (or preferably more)
Practicing self-care is not being selfish.
It is truly being good to yourself, your state of mind and your body. Self-care is the intentional act of doing good for yourself and is a truly important aspect of being happy and taking care of you.
Self-care is not the same for everyone. In other words one must determine what self-care means to you.
Remember…it really is just all about you!